There are lessons to be learned from all of this. Life doesn't just give you challenges to overcome, or puzzles to solve- Life gives you content.
You are given the lessons to live.
Life you gives you experiences that help you to understand the things that you seek to help others with: overcoming adversity, finding passion, healthy relationships - whatever it is that you seek to help others understand, you must first go through yourself. All of this is a gift if you choose to learn from it.
This struggle that you're facing right now, look at it as an opportunity. See how what you've been asking for is being given to you, right now. Whether it's time to create something new, or how to become more resilient in life, everything that we are experiencing, if we pay attention and learn, can be used to serve and lead ourselves and others.
All of this can be used to serve a greater purpose than yourself.
There's a difference between wanting to change and having a willingness to change.
Endure your hardships not because you have no other option, but because these hardships are what makes you a warrior. It’s the tough times that will one day bring you happiness, success, and courage. Embrace them. Enjoy them. Rejoice that they’re yours and no one else’s. These long, hard roads are where lessons are learned and warriors are created.
We've been thinking about, planning and talking about this for a long time and we finally just decided to do it!
My good friend Peter Nakamura (or "PNak" to his friends) and I took some time to record a conversation about Millennials in a series we're calling the "Millennial Edge." Basically we just videotaped one of the conversations we're regularly having in hopes that someone might find value in the topics, ideas and resources/tools that we're sharing.
Keep in mind it's a pilot and we're still working out some of the smaller details (like how you can't actually see Pete in the video...).
We'd love to hear your comments. What do you think? Is this something that would provide value to people?
If you want to learn more about Peter, check out his website http://peternakamura.com/ where he writes about productivity, mindfulness, and Millennial engagement.
Leadership, Millennials, Personal Development and How to Thrive
I had the opportunity and privilege this week to sit down (or stand) with Natalie Currie and talk about leadership, personal development, Millennial engagement and how we thrive in our work and in our lives.
All the things we both really love,
Natalie has been a mentor, friend and coach of mine for a few years now, and I'm always so grateful for any opportunity I get to have conversation with her. She brings a massive amount of knowledge, humility and energy to the conversation and she's the kind of person who really makes you feel a lot smarter than you think you actually are. She's engaging.
Here's the link to the 45 minutes conversation we had about how to thrive in the workplace. We talked about the importance of regular reflection, prioritizing priorities, what's going on with Millennials and why is this such a big deal, and what are the kinds of habits and practices we can start to implement to live a fuller, more integrated life.
Check out Natalie and the Great work she does by going to www.nataliegcurrie.com
"A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough." - Bruce Lee
I've been thinking a lot about knots and the significance they play in my life these days. My neck has been hurting a bit lately. I've got a knot. People will me it's probably stress (the past six months have been a bit stressful) but I think there's more here than just that.
So as I sat down the other night to meditate (I use an app called Buddhify which I recommend), I went to reach for my earbuds. Probably like a lot of people, I throw my buds into my pocket or into my bag and they get all tangled up. Really, who's got the time to wrap them neatly or place them in a container?
As life does, it presented me with a pretty good analogy. My first reaction was to just start fumbling around, tugging at the bundle until it came free. The more I fumbled and tugged, the more frustrated I got. The more frustrated I got, the harder it got to undo the knots. In fact, it seemed like the knots got tighter and more challenging to undo.
Kind of like life.
But when I stopped, took a few deep breaths, and followed the cord to each individual knot and focused on that, it began to unravel. When I moved slowly and with intention, it seemed to help me untangle the knots.
Kind of like life.
When I think about it, this analogy speaks to a lot of different aspects of our lives: Big overwhelming challenges that we can't seem to overcome because we haven't decided where to start, difficult relationships and parenting to name a few (though I'm sure you'll be able to find your own).
"Remember that deciding is not doing, wanting is not choosing. Transformation will take place not because of what you decide you want, but because of what you choose to do." - Eric Greitens
When I was in my 20's, every summer I would challenge myself to do one BIG thing that would grow me in a, what I considered, a substantial way. Things like hiking 100km in less than 48 hours, doing a half marathon, taking part in a 10 day silent meditation retreat, or trekking across Canada on the train by myself. These were, what I considered, to be big things that would foster my growth in big ways. And they did. These things, without a doubt, taught me a lot about myself and allowed me to grow and develop into much of who I am right now.
But than they stopped. I wasn't doing those big things anymore. And for some time, I thought I had stopped growing. I believed that the only way for me to grow and develop in a big way was to push myself in big ways. I thought that if I was going to become a better version of myself, I had to do things that could give me big lessons and big stories to share.
What I forgot (or perhaps didn't know) was that every day provides the opportunity to grow yourself.
Whether it's having that difficult conversation you've been putting off, getting up an hour earlier or taking that risk to leave the job you hate in order to start to do what you love - these little moments turn have the power to turn into big growth.
I've learned that, often, we grow more in the little moments than we do in the big ones. Because those little moments add up. Over time, and with consistency, those little moments will turn into something big and substantial.
Recently, I had the great opportunity to hang out with my friends at www.21toys.com and talk about how we've been able to use their awesome Empathy Toy in training and development at Free The Children & Me to We.
If you're interested in learning more about how to use this awesome tool/toy for training, make sure to check out this webinar. If you've got any questions, just hit me up!
Matt Tod is an international speaker, leadership facilitator, writer and lover of all things Zombie-related.