I once read a story about a famous tightrope walker back in the 30’s. In the story, this man was being interviewed and being asked “how do you do it? How do you stay so perfectly balanced?”
What was surprising to me was that rather than talking about how he stayed perfectly balanced, hundreds of feet up in the air with no safety net below, the man talked about how he was never actually balanced. Rather, he talked about how being balanced was more about constantly readjusting yourself to the situation at hand.
Just like in this story, maintaining balance in our lives isn’t always about having an equal amount of everything we need (such as personal development, professional and career advancement, or relationship building and maintenance) but about knowing when and what we need to adjust ourselves when the situation calls for it.
Creating balance in our busy lives takes awareness, preparation and discipline. It takes you sitting down at the beginning of the week and mapping out what you have coming up. It means looking at your schedule and deciding what is going to take priority for you that day or week. It means that you have to be honest enough with yourself to know that instead of going for a run, you need to spend a little bit more time being social or vice-versa.
Creating balance in your life starts with recognizing your priorities, identifying helpful strategies (such as journalling or exercise) and committing to make those small adjustments each and every day.
Originally posted August 16, 2011 at http://www.thesojo.net/creating-balance/
It’s not about telling a kid “don’t do drugs” or a group of them to “Stop bullying each other”. It’s about helping youth recognize that they have choices in their lives.
It’s not about academics — That’s our agenda, not theirs. We should want teenagers to be happy and healthy and let the other stuff come after that. The other stuff WILL come after that.
It’s not about telling a kid “things will get better” even when you know they won’t. It’s about helping that kid understand that nothing is permanent and everything is temporary, even pain.
Here we are trying to mold them into what best suits society and neglecting to pay more attention to what we’ve already done. We think so much about the future and the past that we often neglect the present.
Am I working hard enough at the right things?
When I look at my life and I put it into a pie chart, there are pieces of my life that are going exceptionally well: work, personal development, etc. but it’s those pieces that aren’t going as well that I should really be focusing on. Things like a broken relationship or strengthening the bond I have with my parents or brothers. Often I find it easier to just keep doing the things that are working and ignore the things that don’t seem to be giving me as much to feel good about.
And that’s where I get it ass backwards at times.
The things that are going well are doing so because of the amount of work that I put into them. I’m excelling at work because of the amount of time and energy I put into it.
But is that what’s most important right now?
I know the answer to that question. Do you?
What if we spent just a fraction of the time and energy we use to excel at something we’re already good at and used it to strengthen and improve an area where we’re weak?
How would that change things? What new life would you create for yourself?
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Matt Tod is an international speaker, leadership facilitator, writer and lover of all things Zombie-related.