We have to stop trying to “fix” teenagers. There’s nothing that needs to be fixed.
But that’s a great example of intent vs impact. Our intent (I hope it’s fair to say this) is that we want to help teens. We want to help them be more successful, achiever greater, reach their full potential.
But how often do we then go and tell them what “success” is? How many times have we pushed them to achieve more with out asking them what they really wanted? How often do we struggle to reach our own full potential? What right do we have pushing anyone to reach theirs when we know that it takes a lifetime of experience to do so?
So please, stop. Stop trying to fix teenagers. Work at understanding who they are. Get to know who they are as people. Ask good questions. Listen more than you talk. Ask better questions. Listen some more.
Teen’s shouldn’t be given the idea that there’s something wrong with them. There isn’t. It’s normal. How they feel is how they feel. That’s truth. No one can tell you that how you feel isn’t true.
“no, you’re not”
Yes. He or she is.
Our intent is to help teenagers. We want them to be happy, healthy, safe and successful.
The impact we have when we don’t understand or seek out more information can be, if we’re not careful, devastating for a teenager (at that point in their life).
But it can also be the opposite of devastating. It can be uplifting. That comes from understanding the impact we have on each other.
Matt Tod is an international speaker, leadership facilitator, writer and lover of all things Zombie-related.